Patriarchy. I don't have anything positive to add. Because there are a lot of problems when it comes to “smashing the patriarchy.” Patriarchy, at its root, is a system that rigidly defines gender roles and values men for strength and power while dismissing their emotional and human needs.
They want to smash the patriarchy,
but they have no idea what it even is. Because apparently people’s perception
of patriarchy is that men are bad, and no man is ever good or a victim of
anything, and that no woman could ever do bad.
They want men to open up about
their feelings, but when they do, they mock them. They use their pain against
them. When they take their life, they wish for more men to take their life. The
concern I heard was that patriarchy tells men never to cry and to bottle up
their emotions, yet the very people who want to smash the patriarchy are
contributing that same thing. They don’t realize that they ARE the patriarchy
that they want to hit. So maybe they should start with themselves. Not
literally, but realizing that they’re not fixing the problem, they’re exacerbating
it.
Another was societal expectation
for men to be providers, never be nurturing or a stay-at-home dad. Yet they
mock men and belittle them for not stepping up to the plate at the cost of
their mental health, their dignity, and their bodily autonomy.
The patriarchy fails to acknowledge
male victims, even ignores or excuses female predators or abusers. The ones who scream
about the patriarchy contribute just that! They only talk about female victims
and male perpetrators. Never would you hear a word about male victims except
that they don’t believe they exist or are worthy of mockery and ridicule. They
have no problem with people telling boys who were victims of female predators
that they were “lucky.”
Patriarchy does not wish to listen to or support male victims of domestic violence. Men were always considered the
abusers, and women who abuse were “victims.”
Some people do accuse all
men, even ones who claim, “We don’t mean all men.” And if you try to poke holes
in their misandry, you’re “why we choose bear!”
Patriarchy happily throws men into
the battlefield to die in their war. If any refuse to go, they’re branded as a coward,
and women have given them the white feather. They don’t care if the workplace
kills them. They don’t care that the majority of the homeless are men!
Movies and shows belittle fathers, and
movies where divorced dads have to jump through hoops, blaming them for
problems they’re not at fault for. Movies make jokes about male victims,
especially male survivors in prison.
Patriarchy demands that men “man up”,
stop talking about their trauma, get over themselves, and other messed-up “advice.”
We don’t live in a society that
cares about men, only what they provide.
Yes, there are issues that women faced
under the patriarchy that deserve to be heard; the abortion rights, the
expectation of women to be mothers and stay at home.
That patriarchy you cry about as a
problem, you’re contributing to it yourself. The only way to end it is to stop
doing what you accuse the patriarchy of doing. If we really want to end
patriarchy, we have to hold ourselves accountable, all of us. That means
listening to every victim, honoring every person’s pain, and
finally admitting that double standards don’t liberate, they just reshape
oppression.
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