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Between 2023 and 2024, there’s an outrage over surrogacy. Curious since surrogacy has been going on since the legal surrogacy that started in 1976. Though surrogacy had been going on for possibly thousands of years. Weirdly, you have the religious far right and the radical feminists screaming about surrogacy, especially when it comes to gay men.

Here’s the thing; It’s ALWAYS gay men that they have a problem with. They never post pictures or say anything about lesbians or straight couples who can’t have children. And especially since straight people make up the majority of surrogacies.

 

“They’re renting wombs, exploiting women, ripping babies from their mothers…”

 

They have no clue how surrogacy works. The women who agree to surrogacy are not being exploited, used as wombs for rent nor was their baby being “ripped away” from her. When it comes to using the agency, both the mother and the couple make arrangements and agreements.

No one is forcing women to surrogate, no one is ripping babies from mothers, and no one is exploiting women.

 

“they’re trafficking babies.”

 

Prove it.

 

Whether it’s surrogacy or adoption, there are always those who exploit the system and abuse the children in their care. However, the thing about surrogacy and adoption is that there are legal processes in place to try and prevent potential abuse and neglect of children who are being with a new family. It’s not foolproof, but people who do surrogacy are not trying to trafficked children. Same for foster care and adoption agencies. The only reason people say this is because they are trying to dehumanize gay men who want to be dads.

 

“They’re depriving the child of a mother!”

 

Newsflash: many children are without mothers. Whether it is a mother who died in childbirth, died in other ways, she abandoned the child, or has to give up custody due to negligence or drugs or something that endangers the children, some mothers abuse their children.

Not every woman with a child is a good mother, that’s a terrible misconception that she would be a wonderful mother. Again, some mothers abuse or abandon their children, and many more.

 

What about single fathers? Does anyone have an issue with a straight single dad raising a child or more? I doubt it. It’s only the gay men they have an issue with.

 

“There was a gay couple that did child porn and prostitute their adopted sons!”

 

I feel for these children, and i would want these sick monsters to get the death penalty. I feel the same when it comes to any straight parent, mothers or fathers.

 

Note that they never say a word about any straight parents who do child porn, or prostitute their children, or sexually assault their children. Curious, because it was never about the wellbeing of a child, it’s all about their homophobia and wanting to paint gay men as pedophiles.

 

“Gay men commit pedophilia more than straights.”

 

No, it’s actually the other way around. Majority of straights commit pedophilia far more than straights. I remember an argument I had with someone on twitter who tried to say that if there are same amount of gay men as there are straights, then gays would have been committing more pedophilia than straights.

That’s making up statistics and far from reality. They’re just trying to justify their homophobia. And note that they never, ever talk about female pedophiles which happens a lot more often than anyone wants to admit.

 

This article I read says it a lot better than I did about this.

https://www.queermajority.com/essays-all/the-hypocrisy-and-homophobia-of-anti-surrogacy-radicals?twclid=26mole5dxshkzukwitpagwkpcl


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