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what would restore my faith in humanity? part 1

 (I put the question mark on par 1 because I'm not sure if I would have more to say. I want to tell all I can, but often find more things I could have added.)



For men


- Shelters and small houses for male victims of DV, SA and rape. Men who are homeless and/or have been getting away from an abusive situation. 

- Support groups for men, therapy that actually takes men seriously and doesn't use feminist dogma to diminish or belittle male victims.

- family courts are fairer to fathers who want to be in their kids' lives, ensuring that if the father should pay child support the money goes DIRECTLY to the kids and the wife cannot touch it.

- Female pedophiles, abusers, rapists, and killers are taken far more seriously as we do male perps and are sentenced more severely and harshly.

- Movies and shows show men in a positive light, stopped making rape jokes, stopped dehumanizing gay men, stopped painting fathers as bumbling morons, and stop making light of male victims or men's humanity and integrity.

- society starts teaching boys and men that it's ok to cry, it's ok to feel the way you do, and that you shouldn't have to feel ashamed or isolated. 

- Education helps boost boys' education instead of favoring women. In fairness, it's not to say we should devalue women's education. It's just that we need to stop favoring one of the other and boosting them all up. 

- Stop calling it "having sex" when a female teacher (or any older woman) rapes a teenage boy and does not get anything if she gets pregnant! The boy should be supported and should never be punished or expected to do anything like supporting his rapist. 

- we take false allegations very, very seriously and we do not let them destroy a man's life.

-  We establish men's spaces and do not allow women in their spaces, especially gay men's spaces! Women want men out of their space, which I totally agree with but men should also have their own space too, otherwise it's hypocrisy.






I'm sure there's more, but that's what I think should happen. 


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