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lost faith in humanity part 4: Little boys do not dream of being raped!

 


Most teenage boys did NOT dream of being raped by a female teacher. You do not get to speak for the boys, you do not get to assume what their sexual fantasy is. What you don't realize is that many boys, even before they were teens, even when they were just babies, they were sexually assaulted and raped! There are so many stories of male survivors of CSA and their lives were changed badly, their trust is eroded, their understanding of relationships is damaged and more. 


A grown woman "deflowering" a boy is rape. It is rape because he is a minor. Even if he wanted it, it is not ok for her to do that to him. Not to mention that he doesn't understand that this is not a healthy thing either. 


To call a male rape victim of a woman a "legend" is a repulsive thing to say. 

Sexual abuse plagues every corner of our society, leaving deep scars on countless victims. While the #MeToo movement has brought much-needed attention to the struggles of female survivors, the experiences of male victims often remain in the shadows. Societal misconceptions and harmful stereotypes can make it incredibly difficult for boys and men to come forward about their abuse. This essay aims to shed light on the unique challenges male survivors face and the urgent need for greater understanding and support.

The first step in addressing this issue is to acknowledge the disturbing prevalence of sexual abuse among males. According to RAINN, 1 in 6 boys will be sexually abused before their 18th birthday, and this number rises to 1 in 4 men who experience unwanted sexual events in their lifetime. These statistics underscore that male survivors are not rare – they are our brothers, fathers, friends, and colleagues. Yet, all too often, their stories go untold and their struggles unnoticed.

Societal attitudes play a significant role in the silence surrounding male sexual abuse. Our culture often adheres to damaging myths about masculinity, making it difficult for men to acknowledge their victimhood. A study by the NSVRC highlights that male survivors face unique challenges due to societal expectations of masculinity. The stigma and shame attached to being a male victim can prevent them from seeking help and disclosing their abuse.

The impact of sexual abuse on males is profound and long-lasting. Research shows that male survivors are at a higher risk for substance abuse, self-harm, and risky sexual behaviors. They may also struggle with depression, anxiety, PTSD, and feelings of powerlessness. The abuse can damage their understanding of healthy relationships and intimacy, affecting their lives well into adulthood. A study published in Springer explores how male survivors of child sexual abuse experience intimacy in romantic relationships, highlighting the complex and enduring effects of the trauma.

It is also essential to address the legal and social response to female perpetrators of child sexual abuse. Research indicates that even professionals in the healthcare or justice system may respond inappropriately in cases of child sexual abuse committed by women. This denial and minimization can further traumatize the victims and create barriers to justice. A fact sheet by MSU emphasizes the importance of understanding that women can be perpetrators of child sexual abuse and recognizing the warning signs.

The journey towards healing for male survivors is often fraught with challenges. MaleSurvivor, a support organization for male survivors, highlights the importance of community and connection in the healing process. However, the lack of resources and understanding specifically tailored to male survivors can leave them feeling isolated and unsupported. A thesis by the University of Tennessee emphasizes the need for more research and resources focused on the unique experiences and needs of male survivors.

it is imperative that we shatter the silence and misconceptions surrounding male sexual abuse. By acknowledging the prevalence of the issue, challenging harmful stereotypes, and providing tailored support and resources, we can help male survivors heal and reclaim their lives. We must create a society where no survivor is left in the shadows, and justice is pursued for all perpetrators, regardless of gender. The suffering of male survivors is real, and it is past time that we confront this reality head-on.




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