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why can't we speak up?

 Why is it so hard to speak up?

 

We don’t know how a person may respond. We also get inundated with messages that basically tells us to shut up. What is society so afraid of if we were to speak?

 

Are we really ok?

 

This is a message to everyone, it doesn’t matter who you are; We can be going through all kinds of things; jobs, school, drugs, alcohol, family, relationships, cancer, loss of loved ones, discrimination, abuse, sexual assault, rape, bullying, and more.

 

Why is it so hard to speak up?

 

Are we just to remain silent and bury our pain? Why does everything have to be a competition? “They had it worse.”

 

“just man up.” A message that is said so much, but never helps.

 

Are we really just weak as they said? Are we really just the snowflakes as they claim we are? Are we supposed to be like the guy who says, “if he dies, he dies?”

 

Are we supposed to be just pretending everything is all fine and dandy when haunted by the shadows of our past or even the shadow that currently haunt us?

 

What are we even supposed to be doing? How is being silent and keeping it buried in us going to help us heal? It’s no wonder suicide was so high. We’re supposed to only shed tear for a certain appropriate time or we’re weak? We’re supposed to just walk it off or just deal with the issue alone?

 

We can’t do this alone, we can’t just pretend the world is sunny and bright when it’s raining, and we can’t just keep it all inside.

 

Even in other  societies, they tell you never to make waves or rock the boat. A nail that sticks up gets hammered down. What good does it do to keep it bottled up? Why is society so afraid of hearing us?

 

Speaking up is not weakness, it takes an extreme amount of courage to speak. It can even be painful to open up.

 

We should speak up. I can’t say it would heal or not, but at least we can be supportive and empathetic. You’re not a snowflake, you’re not weak, you’re not wrong to speak up and you matter.,. We all matter. It should never be ok to silence people.

 

It’s not one-upmanship, we all go through things and deserve to be heard and supported. You’re not talking over one or drawing attention away from anyone else. A medical clinic can help all patients, why shouldn’t this be the same? 

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