Derailing women's lived experiences?

 derailing a woman's lived experiences? Whenever a man talks about his lived experience, he's somehow derailing or silencing or one-uping women? Whether they are in the same room or not, they both have their trauma that they want people to know. He can have his own platform to talk about his lived experience and still be told that he is "derailing women's lived experience" and that "men suffer less than women." if anything, those who are doing the silencing are the ones silencing men, not women. No one tells her she is derailing the men's lived experience, no one is telling her that her pain is statistically lower than his, and no one is trying to silence her. Now imagine how this sounds.

A woman goes to an urgent care clinic because she is having chest problems. She got checked in and is being seen by a doctor. A man comes in and says he has chest problems. Is he derailing her pain? Was he silencing her? Was he making the doctor abandon her to attend to him? No! 

This is the same thing; when he talks about his, he is not silencing her or making her voice not heard. The only one being silenced was the man. The only one derailing the lived experience was the man's experience. The only ones getting upset are those who do not want to hear men speak. they don't want to acknowledge that men can be victims and that women can also be perpetrators too. That the world isn't all black and white. 

Why is that? Because they don't want to acknowledge that men are not evil, they are human too. Men too can be victims of rape and abuse. It's not a matter of who has it worse., that itself is one-upmanship. No one is talking about who has it worse.

No one is trying to silence her or make her lived experience unimportant. Like with the urgent care scenario, both matter just the same and it's important to hear both and support both. Why is this so hard? 

We should be hearing and supporting the victims, whether they are male or female. It shouldn't have to be about blaming either gender. all we're doing is blocking out male victims and turning a blind eye to female perpetrators in favor of just women because of the dogmatic idea; Men are evil, women fragile sangels.