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play as a victim or as victor.

 I don't know you, but only you know yourself.


If you're born in America, you have the possible opportunities available to you. It is available to all.


If you are someone who thinks that if you're black, or gay, or trans or a woman then you will always be lesser than and have harder than than some straight white man. If that is how you want to play, then play that. Be a victim, because that's all you will ever be. You will never achieve anything, you will never amount to anything because you CHOSE that path. You don't want to do anything to improve your life, you just want to be a victim for the rest of your life. 


However, if you want to be a victor, then you will achieve a lot in your life. 


You may be thinking, "But I'm poor, I have limited things in life," and whatever your excuse is. Every person in life, no matter what can do something, even if it's hard. But here's the thing, only person that is keeping you down, is yourself. It's not some white person, it's not men, it's not straight people. It's you. It's been you all along. You are a saboteur. You are sabotaging your own life. 


Every challenge you have, everyone faces including the great evil "straight white man." We all have obstacles to face, we all have our own weaknesses and there are many things that keep us from moving forward. And the best way to achieve your goals in life is to stop blaming everybody else and learn what your obstacles are and what you can do to move past them.


1) Stop sabotaging yourself. Stop blaming everybody else for your problems. 

2) Look at your obstacle as a challenge to overcome, not an oppression.

3) Write down what are your goals, and what do you want to do.

4) How do you achieve them? Even if you have to take a lot of steps. If it's worth it, you will do it. Even if you get setbacks or other obstacles. 

5) Setbacks are part of life, not someone keeping you down.  

6) Fail and fail again. Because no one succeeds right from the start, everyone has to fail and try again. 

7) You owe it to yourself to decide if you want to play a victim or a victor. 


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