male and female victim.

 let's imagine that there is a male driver. He is driving a car. A man and a woman are walking on the sidewalk. He drove up on the sidewalk and ran them both over. Both are alive but are badly injured.

Now, in this scenario, many people came to help. Who do they turn their attention to? The woman. Because we focused so much on caring about women (Which isn't wrong), but we ignored the male victim.

The news media would say, "Two victims were hit by a car, one is a female." They would focus on the female victim.

What happens to the male victim? He gets no attention, no support. Even when he is taken to the hospital too, no media want anything to do with him.

Especially when the driver is himself a man.

"It is so typical! All men are violent!" There would be outcries and screams about how men are the problem.

The male victim tries to say, "I was hit by the car too."

They would tell him these things:

"Stop distracting the issue from the REAL victims!"

"It's the fault of the patriarchy, you men need to do better!"

"You deserved it."

"Women have it worse!"

"Now you know how women feel!"

How is it ok to treat him like this? They were both injured in the accident. The fault lies with the man who drove his car into them both. Men are not responsible for men's behaviors. 

Providing support and being compassionate to male victims does not dismiss female victims. This is not a zero-sum game, it's not a one-upmanship. We will not be able to fix the problems by blaming men and putting all the problems onto men, "It's all your fault, you fix this!"

Now let's imagine the same scenario, except the driver is now a woman. 

This time, the man is blamed for her actions.

"What did you do to make her do this?"

"Men drove her to this."

or 

"She's mentally ill, she needs help."

"She doesn't know what she was doing!"

"She was the victim!"

How is any of this scenario ok?

When you try to point this out to feminists, they would try to shut you down.

"There are men going into women's shelters, prisons, and bathrooms!"

As if that justifies ignoring and belittling male victims. 

or, "Men have systematically oppressed women for thousands of years!"

Ignoring that few men had power, there are women who have power as well and the majority of men were not powerful rulers. Men were, by the vast majority likely to be "peasants" "merchants" or workers. 

No matter how you slice it, men are always blamed, men are always ignored and male victims get shunted aside and told to be quiet. 

So in these scenarios, it would be best to provide support to both victims. No more shunting victims aside or blaming the gender. we should look at what the problems are and how we can solve this, but first we need to stop with blame.