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What Really Scares Me (And What Doesn’t)

  What Really Scares Me (And What Doesn’t) By Tim Friday People talk a lot about what they fear—things like ghosts, flying, spiders. But my fears are simpler. More grounded. Real. I fear dog attacks. I’ve been attacked before, more than once, without provocation. The worst part isn’t just the trauma of the bite or the shock—it’s the way people defend it. They say things like, “It must’ve sensed something,” or “Dogs only attack if provoked.” As if I deserved it. That gaslighting hurts worse than the teeth. I fear car crashes. I’ve already been in a few. Minor, maybe, by insurance standards, but not by mine. I know what that impact feels like. The snap of the seatbelt. The sound of metal folding in on itself. I’ve had close calls too—so close I thought, This might be it. That terror doesn’t fade. It lingers under my skin when I drive. I fear being assaulted. That should be a no-brainer. And yes, even men like me get assaulted. I’ve been hit, shoved, screamed at, threatened—u...
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Rethinking College: What If We Designed Education to Actually Work for Students?

  Rethinking College: What If We Designed Education to Actually Work for Students? The current college system in the U.S. feels outdated, expensive, and disconnected from real life. For many students, it's not just about failing a class—it's about a financial system that punishes you for not fitting into its strict mold. But what if we flipped the whole thing on its head? What if college actually helped you get where you want to go, faster, cheaper, and more confidently? Here are a few big ideas that could radically change the way we do education in this country: 🔧 1. Cut the Clutter: Apprenticeships Over Endless Coursework Instead of making students spend 4–8 years in traditional classrooms, let’s invest in real-world apprenticeships and mentorships that get students into their dream industries faster. Whether it's healthcare, media, trades, or tech—students should be working alongside professionals while learning. Licensing and degrees should be streamlined base...

masculinity

Masculinity   Is masculinity dead? Is it the fault of some feminist or gay agenda? Was it caused by the bun-wearing guys with lattes and avocado toasts? Was it due to the unholy atheists? Of course not. But there are unfortunately a lot of people who think this way, especially those who believe that masculinity is really on the decline. But is it really? Some people want there to be a single mold for men: tough, rugged, thick-skinned, fearless, always pushing himself to the limit, willing to die for his country, willing to provide for his wife and children, believing in God, being heterosexual, peeing while standing, and rejecting anything deemed feminine. Who fits this mold? Very few men do. And here's the thing: most men never fit that mold, nor had they ever. Throughout history and across cultures, masculinity has always been far more diverse and nuanced than modern critics would have us believe. In ancient Greece, for philosophers like Plato and Aristotle, masculinity was deepl...

The Innovation Paradox: Why Basic Security Fuels Progress

  The Innovation Paradox: Why Basic Security Fuels Progress When I was a child, I had everything I needed - a home, food, education, and medical care when I got sick. This security didn't make me lazy. Instead, it gave me the foundation to learn, grow, and imagine. This simple truth holds a powerful lesson for how we should structure our society. Some argue that removing the struggle for survival would kill innovation. They paint a picture of a world where, freed from necessity, humans would stagnate in comfortable mediocrity. But this argument fundamentally misunderstands both human nature and the real barriers to innovation in our current system. The cruel irony is that the very conditions supposedly driving innovation - constant financial pressure, expensive healthcare, crushing student debt, and housing insecurity - are actually suffocating it. How can someone innovate when they're working multiple jobs just to keep a roof over their head? How can they take the entrep...

being deaf in a hostile world

 As someone who was born deaf, the way I am treated by society is not just an inconvenience—it’s painful, traumatic, and alienating. It’s not about seeking pity or asking people to "check their privilege," but rather for society to recognize that disabled individuals exist in this world and deserve the same respect as anyone else. When people treat me differently—whether it’s ignoring my presence, belittling me, or physically grabbing me in an attempt to communicate—it’s not just frustrating; it’s damaging. Working in retail should be an opportunity for human connection and service. Instead, it often feels like a battleground where I constantly have to prove my humanity while navigating the misconceptions people have about me. One incident stands out: I was collecting garbage when a customer, presumably frustrated with my inability to hear him immediately, slammed his cart into mine and started yelling at me. The situation escalated to the point where he was pointing his fing...

my own "project 2025!"

  My own “project 2025”   1. A More Equitable Economy Universal Basic Income (UBI) : A safety net for all citizens, ensuring everyone can meet their basic needs, particularly in times of economic uncertainty. Fair Wages : Advocating for a living wage for workers across all sectors, especially for those in service jobs and industries with traditionally low pay. Access to Education : Making education more affordable and accessible to everyone, regardless of background or income. This could include free college education or expanding community colleges . Wealth Redistribution : A progressive tax system that ensures the wealthy contribute their fair share and helps fund public services for those in need.   2. Affordable Healthcare for All Universal Healthcare : A single-payer healthcare system or a public option that guarantees every American access to affordable care,...